tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4283072392763163737.post2766232702139354154..comments2024-02-27T12:41:35.811-08:00Comments on Coming to Terms...: On Ray and Janay RiceLisa :-]http://www.blogger.com/profile/02237889098638895390noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4283072392763163737.post-76896387252513429352014-09-10T12:52:23.094-07:002014-09-10T12:52:23.094-07:00You make a number of really good points. I would a...You make a number of really good points. I would add:<br /><br />Intimate Partner violence knows no cultural bounds, it affects many women (and some men) regardless of race, ethnicity, social economic status, education or any other criteria for human beings. Women are not raised in households that lend themselves to "finding" abusers. It happens - the man is all sweet and loving for a length of time and then the control begins to take over, slowly tearing down every fiber of confidence of the woman until she is completely controlled by the man because she has come to feel so devalued and unimportant. Smart, well educated women have found themselves in this position, and the struggle to rise up, reclaim one's value and get out is tough. But most of all, the getting out is all but impossible - the man finds you, beats you into submission, threatens your life, your children's lives, the lives of your parents, siblings, and friends. You live in total fear, you lose all independence - have no access to money or the ability to leave. Getting out takes profound planning, strategy, and secrecy. And even then you might be found and killed. It is ALL about power, control and entitlement - the man (usually) is 100% certain that he has the right to do this and be this way. Of course when he is remorseful, he is sweet and in the beginning some women really do believe that he will change and never do it again. But. He does. And as you say, it can end with the woman in a body bag. Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15667178624061122421noreply@blogger.com