tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4283072392763163737.post6945205995069579966..comments2024-02-27T12:41:35.811-08:00Comments on Coming to Terms...: Duty Calls...Can I Just Say No?Lisa :-]http://www.blogger.com/profile/02237889098638895390noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4283072392763163737.post-9830943103964834042012-09-04T09:14:21.131-07:002012-09-04T09:14:21.131-07:00Well...here was my solution: I was so crazed abou...Well...here was my solution: I was so crazed about the whole thing, I let the Universe decide. I tried to call the guy back on Saturday, and he wasn't in--so I did my part. I decided that if the Universe really wanted me to consider this job, the guy would call back on Monday. He didn't. So I'm going to believe this means the Universe has something else in mind for me. Lisa :-]https://www.blogger.com/profile/02237889098638895390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4283072392763163737.post-74383918477106570282012-09-04T09:09:18.086-07:002012-09-04T09:09:18.086-07:00Both the previous comments offer super advise. Th...Both the previous comments offer super advise. There's nothing really to lose by going to an interview. Perhaps in talking with someone about the work, it will become clearer to you as to what you really are prepared to take on. I think it's actually good that you didn't fall back into you normal job hunting mindset. That leaves you clear to approach the opportunity with an open mind. Just go, then listen to your gut. It will tell you if you're ready and if not, maybe it's time to move completely away from cooking. Let the universe guide you once you have the scoop.sunflowerkat https://www.blogger.com/profile/11643564072168293568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4283072392763163737.post-38613260167704153152012-09-03T19:27:56.535-07:002012-09-03T19:27:56.535-07:00Silk offers an excellent perspective!
Healing is ...Silk offers an excellent perspective!<br /><br />Healing is a process. A long one. It really takes time. And, to some degree, re-experiencing life in such a way as it triggers us and reopens wounds ('cuz it's gonna happen) - and learning that we have a new response, or newer response, or at least, not the same response. <br /><br />So, very likely there will be aspects of this position, even just interviewing for it -should you decide to do so (and, it's okay to say you aren't ready yet)- that will open those wounds. But it won't be the same situation. And you aren't the same person. <br /><br />As Silk says, you like to cook. So if this is lots of what you like and not much of what you don't like, it could be good.<br /><br />Regardless of whether you decide to interview or not, there will be some healing just in going through this process of considering another position....good stuff.Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15667178624061122421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4283072392763163737.post-68843014011999165372012-09-03T09:10:46.103-07:002012-09-03T09:10:46.103-07:00Back when I was a development team leader with IBM...Back when I was a development team leader with IBM, one of my chief complaints was that I had been handed nyit-loads of responsibility, but I had no authority to make things happen. <br /><br />When you were running the restaurant, you were at the mercy of employees, wholesalers, customers, the economy, and although I don't recall your mentioning it, taxing authorities, over none of which you had authority or control.<br /><br />Yes, I understand why you wouldn't want to get into that situation again. I have also sworn never again to accept ANY responsibility without equal authority and control.<br /><br />However, the job offer sounds like you will not be personally responsible for any of the things that made life so difficult. Someone else will handle all that. You like cooking. It's all the other crap that you need to avoid. Make a list of things you like to do, and a list of things you won't accept, and go to the interview and ask. If they want you to deal with suppliers, maybe you'll just say no. But you should at least ask.<br /><br />Remember that they are interviewing you to see if they want what you offer, but you are also interviewing them to see if you want what they have to offer. So, relax. You can still say no.~~Silkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11122262422346224632noreply@blogger.com