tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4283072392763163737.post8159724127724324157..comments2024-02-27T12:41:35.811-08:00Comments on Coming to Terms...: Families, cont'dLisa :-]http://www.blogger.com/profile/02237889098638895390noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4283072392763163737.post-46994080161634988382004-08-22T08:34:00.000-07:002004-08-22T08:34:00.000-07:00These have been some really good, reflective entri...These have been some really good, reflective entries, Lisa. I have always wondered what family was like through the 40s,50s and 60s and what happened that changed our culture from Mayberry to Married.. with Children. Your last few entries are giving me some insight.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4283072392763163737.post-52654567106822856752004-08-22T08:52:00.000-07:002004-08-22T08:52:00.000-07:00Yikes! Now, it has changed to sound more like my l...Yikes! Now, it has changed to sound more like my life. I'm sorry to hear that. If it's any consolation, at some point in my life I realized there were just somethings I would never understand about my mom but I really believe she didn't make the decisions she did because of me. And, yeah, like you, like all children it was about me. And, I'm sure it was the same for your mother. She loved you the only way she knew how at the time. :-) ---RobbieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4283072392763163737.post-88532857893686169342004-08-22T09:42:00.000-07:002004-08-22T09:42:00.000-07:00These are very gripping memoirs!These are very gripping memoirs!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4283072392763163737.post-11121052905449855712004-08-22T10:41:00.000-07:002004-08-22T10:41:00.000-07:00Gillian Anderson commented in an early interview t...Gillian Anderson commented in an early interview that she was hitting puberty when her folks up and added two more kids to the family. She made the comment that trrying to go through puberty and suddenly not being the center of her parents attention was not a good thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4283072392763163737.post-875610859037354422004-08-22T16:53:00.000-07:002004-08-22T16:53:00.000-07:00I always wondered what it would be like it if was ...I always wondered what it would be like it if was your actual mom who was the problem, instead of a step-mom -- I wondered that on behalf of my stepsister and stepbrothers. Growing up with an alcoholic in the family is a fairly bizarre experience, but I'm sure it's much worse if it's someone you love and depend on (my stepmother did not fall into the latter categories). Now that I'm a mom to a teenage daughter, though, there's no doubt in my mind that the mothers in question lost far more than the daughters. Of course, maybe that is just my own warped little view, as seen from the much later persepctive of an adult.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4283072392763163737.post-17186497874068720782004-08-22T18:34:00.000-07:002004-08-22T18:34:00.000-07:00I can't imagine what it must have been like fo...I can't imagine what it must have been like for you as a young child to have to deal with a mother who has a drinking problem. I imagine it must be a contributing factor in determining the kind of person one becomes. I'm glad that you had your sisters, and that you survived the turmoil. And thank you so much for making the font a little bigger. You are the BEST!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4283072392763163737.post-75346614972454529342004-08-25T10:39:00.000-07:002004-08-25T10:39:00.000-07:00Well Lisa, I think it's normal to take your mo...Well Lisa, I think it's normal to take your mother's drinking issues personally. You were 13! At that age, you're naturally thinking of how things affect you more than how they affect others, because you haven't matured enough to even realize how others are affected. But, that doesn't mean you aren't concerned about it now. I don't think you should feel bad about focusingf on how it affected you.<br><br>I think you might be very close to right about the change causing stress for her. Believe me, it's very hard for lots of people to deal with huge changes in their life, and sometimes you find an unhealthy way to cope. :-/<br>Donna<br><br>PS. So sorry I've been away from journal reading. ::sigh:: I don't know where to start with all the reasons, so I won't. Just didn't want you to think it was because I didn't care! I've felt guilty about it lots, and worried about when I would ever catch up. Today it just occurred to me that I could start over. I don't have to read every single thing I've missed, right? But I am sorry I might have missed out on some important things.<br>DonnaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com