Sunday, November 29, 2009

Going Underground

Perhaps some of you who have tried to visit in the past twenty-four hours have met with the notice that this blog is now private and you have not been added as a reader. I'm coming up for air one more time just in case there is anyone out there who would like to be invited to continue to read after I take "Coming to Terms..." private for good. I know many of you come here from "Desert Year" but have not become official "followers" of the blog, so I can't find you to ask you if you'd like to continue to visit.

This blogging road has been a long and strange one. "Coming to Terms..." was born in 2003. It came to be as part of AOL's "journals" experiment. We neophyte bloggers grew, networked, made friends and built a community. Which, as everyone knows, AOL razed last October in favor of...I'm not sure what.

I've seen many people come and go. Had many friends who I no longer "see." I suppose that is something that happens in "real life," too. But it has been painful for me, because this Land of Blog is where I did a great deal of healing after several terrible years. I know it still is, and can be, a place of great healing and sharing. But, apparently, not for me.

The thing is, for all those six plus years, I could never get any of the people I care about in my real life to read my blog. Unfortunately, since this past summer when I inadvertently invited some people associated with the cafe to read (not taking into account that some of what I have posted here is not consistently flattering to the people I work with) I have acquired some new readers. Readers with local ISP’s who visit several times a day—almost obsessively. I can only assume these readers have a not altogether kosher agenda, since they don’t choose to leave comments or interact in any way. I have no idea what kind of harm they might mean to cause me, or could cause me, but I can’t afford to ignore them and wait to see what happens.

Hence the need to take “Coming to Terms…” private. It’s a move I hate to make; though I’ve given up the idea of acquiring NEW readers, every once in awhile, an old j-land friend I haven’t seen or heard from in ages will stop by and leave a comment. I’ll have to hope they can find me some other way…

Anyway, as of…sometime later this week, “Coming to Terms…” will close its doors to the public and be open by invitation only. So…if you would like an invite, please leave your contact information (I'll need your email address and I promise I won't spam you or even email you, except an invitation to the blog...) in a comment.

Otherwise, goodbye… And thanks for reading.

:-]

14 comments:

  1. Bummer. It has to hard to put up walls in a place where we hope to have no walls. But, this is your baby and this is one place that should feel safe, not the middle of a mine field.

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  2. Could you please add me to your new blog, I dont comment, but I do read every time you post. Have been following for a long time. I promise to comment if you do. Thanks

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  3. Sue--I'll need your email address in order to add you to my readers list...

    Hope you get this message...

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  4. Please add me to your readers' list, Lisa.

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  5. Lisa,

    I have continued to read your blog but I never comment. Hope that's ok! I've continued to blog but I have wanted to remain somewhat anonymous just because I don't care whether I have readers or not. I haven't given out my link to anyone so those people who do read me, read because they have found me on their own.

    Anyway, my email address is still karensull12@aol.com. You can find my blog by clicking onto starsgoblue if you're interested.

    Karen

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  6. Good god, of course it's okay, Karen. You are one of those people I thought I had lost...

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  7. I would like to be added. My email is jarico1@msn.com. Thanks, Sheila

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  8. I hope i'm part of the in crowd!! I would be lost without reading here!!

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  9. Please add me to your list:

    jacobscindyj@yahoo.com.

    Cindy

    (I've only recently discovered your blog, and I've not commented, but I would hate to be unable to do so.)

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  10. Thanks for the second chance to follow you, I'd have missed reading about you and your cafe if I'd clicked your link and it didn't work anymore. I'd love to follow you when you go private...

    my email is QuartrLyfeCrysis@aol.com

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  11. Hi Lisa, I hope I'm not too late with the request to add me to your list, please. I've been away for a bit but I am very much a faithful follower of your writing and endeavors. Email is Springsnymph2@comcast.net

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  13. Heh! Believe it or not, my verification word is "caters". Cool!

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  14. Well, I sure want to be added too. I have been unable to access my AOL mail due to my computer woes of late so my yahoo address is contrarywoman@yahoo.com. I'm glad to find you are still banging away at the personal stuff.

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